Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Beauty for Our Ashes


Author's Maternal Grandmother
Celebrating Three Mothers

God our creator made provision for the broken pieces of our lives.  Regardless of how good we think we are, our lives are affected in some way by brokenness (ours or someone elses).  He made a promise to give us “beauty for our ashes” (Isaiah 61:3).  Reading that scripture several times should make us jump up and down, do the one woman (or man) wave, a cartwheel and dance.  Perhaps you don’t understand.   We’re talking: 


  • Joy for mourning 
  • Freedom from bondage
  • A way of escape we can bear
  • Healing for families
  • Restoration for our loss
  • Confidence in place of insecurity

Author's mother with author and her sister
In the Bible times, it was the custom for people mourning or in great difficulty to lie in ashes.   Can you imagine?  You already felt bad, but to be buried under a pile of stinky, sooty ashes?  I guess it’s like when we’re depressed and refuse to leave the house.  We lie around in our robes eating high calorie junk food, watching pathetic movies.  How on earth are we to feel better in those conditions? We need to turn it over to the Lord.  Some brokenness is not our fault.  It may be generational.  When my maternal grandmother gave birth to my mother she died within a week.  Her husband did not want to take care of my mother.   It was very tragic.  My mother was raised by a loving aunt and uncle.  However the pain (spirit) of rejection never left.  She would speak about it like the aching was still fresh in her heart.  For many years that spirit of rejection caused bouts of depression.  That same spirit was destined to pass to me BUT FOR GOD! When I came to develop a personal relationship with Christ I was set free.  It didn’t happen quickly but over a period of years.  God makes everything beautiful in its time (Ecclesiastes 3:11). Within those years I studied the word and walked closely with God.  I allowed Him to break strongholds, mold and deliver me.  It wasn’t pretty! That close relationship gave birth to a series of events and eventually I wrote my novel Sweet Magnolia. It turned out to be an Essence National Book Club selection with a full page article in the magazine.  God took generational pain and turned it into purpose.  Sweet Magnolia was one of the most difficult books I have had to write because it took me through a healing process.  I used my mother’s story as an inspiration.  In addition, it helped me grieve my mother’s loss (she passed in my twenties but it was like grieving again).  I’m certain God made Sweet Magnolia so prominent for His purpose.  He wanted to touch and deliver readers!   Unfortunate circumstances are in everyone’s life.  However, God can use it for His gloryHe doesn’t waste a thing.  When I think of beauty for ashes the awesome testimony of Israel Houghton also comes to mind.  Israel is known all over the world for his music ministry.  He’s won many souls, awards and sold millions of records.  Israel is also one of the music ministers at my church Lakewood, where Joel Osteen is Pastor.   Israel was born to a teenage mother.  She was White and his real father was Black. Her parents threatened her and she left home.  While eight months pregnant she was walking down the street in L.A.  A woman jumped out of a car and handed her a Bible.  As she read through it, she kept coming upon the word Israel.  When she gave birth, Israel was the name she gave her son. His mother gave her life to Christ; eventually married a Pastor and blessed many people through ministry!  God traded her beauty for ashes and blessed her seed.  Israel grew up to minister to the masses through the gift of music!  God didn’t leave Israel’s mother to lie in ashes.  God can transform the ashes in your life to beauty.  It doesn’t mean there are no consequences to some of our actions.  It does not mean we don’t do the best we can to be obedient to His word.  But in unfortunate circumstances, God can transform tragedies to triumphs. 

Blessings and Happy Mother's Day
Norma L. Jarrett, Author &
Founder of Brunch Lady Books & Lifestyle (BLBL)

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